几次提笔又都放下，文如其人，松鼠最近也比较踌躇吧。如果要应用本文的观点应该是泛起涟漪之后速冻的水结晶。
古时候的人没有镜子，女孩子如果要打扮不是对着铜镜就是来到有水的地方。人们形容平静的心情用古井不波。日本的江本胜博士所在的研究团队用了大概十年的时间研究水的结晶这个东西。简单点说，就是让水去感受人类的语言、环境、生活和社会，然后测量水对他们的反应。如何测量呢？将这些水放到零下5度的空间冰冻它的记忆，然后用高速摄影机去记录。最后出版一本的科普读物〈水知道答案〉
研究的结果企图反映预先设定的一些观点，让水这种我们认为没有思想绝对纯洁的东西去评判我们的行为。越研究下去越有趣，比如水对美好的语言，自然的事物会呈现美好的图案。左图是水看到海豚时的结晶图案，偶也很喜欢海豚，而且它能够让半个脑袋工作，另半个脑袋休息。
世事纷繁复杂，人的阅历也在不断增长，评判事物的标准经常很模糊，善恶美丑都成为很难分辨的东西。要是那么容易，三大宗教也不会有那么多信徒等待被救赎、导引、归依三宝。
题外话，偶的神经很大条，常被问及择偶条件，常常答不出或者乱下门槛。用上面的引申，应该是有敢爱敢恨大智慧的女孩吧。
Blog本想尽量简洁，不过这幅图太漂亮。本文主要讨论怎样反映外物，不是征婚启事啦，也没有描黑的嫌疑。
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[有敢爱敢恨大智慧的女孩]
Cool. :-)
非也，非也。诸位善知识，且听在下细细道来：
心生大智慧的人，无论男女，都近乎无爱无恨，变成所谓太上忘情了。一旦勘破了大道， 无论身属佛道，或者洋人的拜上帝教，都不会执着于爱恨情仇。老子说“天地不仁，以万物为刍狗”，结果骑着青牛浪迹天涯不知所踪，庄子说“相濡以沫不如相忘于江湖”，结果老婆死了就敲着盆子唱歌，六祖更彻底“本来无一物，何处惹尘埃”，结果一辈子没老婆，耶稣在人世间连生他的爹妈都是假借的，被人扁了一通就直接上天堂了。
所以，小叶子，如果你真是想要找个老婆过日子，千万不要找有大智慧的女孩，那样的女孩不食人间烟火，太过冷漠。
受苦，她不会觉得苦，所以也无所谓挣扎奋斗；受恩而不知报答，因为把人生都看透了以后，报不报答又如何？好比当你作为一个人，坐在树下看待营营苟苟的蚁群。
所以“敢爱敢恨”跟“大智慧”是根本矛盾的。真正投入的去爱去恨的人决称不上智慧；而获得大智慧的人，即便看起来好像有爱有恨，那也是别有目的的，并不会真的投入爱恨之中。
咱们乃是俗人（小叶子，您老要是觉得自己不是俗人，就当我放了个俗屁好了），娶老婆自然是想找个终身伴侣，互相之间不离不弃，大家劲往一处使，一起把小日子过得红火一些，今日养只鸡，卖了换个收音机；明日找份工，分担些Mortgage；孩子生病了，陪夜熬汤也是少不了的。。。 。。。
可是您要是一不小心找了一个具有“大智慧”的mm，那就有些麻烦了。人家追求的跟你不在一个层次了，可能你的努力在她眼里都有些可笑甚至是可恶。而她追求的则在你眼里多少有些不切实际，虚无飘渺。道不同，不相为谋。更有甚者，你所谓的感情在人家眼里也是可笑可怜，你在一旁幻想着一辈子不离不弃，人家没日里寻思的就是如何早日得道飞升，好终日侍奉在那更高存在的身旁。
当然了，你要是机缘巧合之下也有了大智慧，那也不要去祸害平民百姓了，应该去找个一样有大智慧，或者至少是心慕智慧者。来个互帮互助，阴阳双修。到时候携手进入天堂，也是美事一件。
临表涕泣，不知所云。列位看官，多多包涵。
耐着性子看完了Oliver的一段，难得呀，我们这位长跑种子选手今天没有跑题：）
虽然某些地方不完全苟同，但是我还是小投Oliver一票，“敢爱敢恨”和“大智慧”是很难放在一个人身上的。爱恨本身就是没看透，而大智慧就是要人看透爱恨。
真到了敢爱敢恨大智慧那一步，估计就会象陈晓旭一样，拉着你跳出三界外了。。。
哈哈，多谢大家的提点。
就知道最后一句话会成为种子。本来是因为最近见到不少东西都会有模棱两可的看法，心里烦躁自己从哪个方向看都是对的，而丧失评判事物起码的标准。比如说朋友中有婚外恋，老公是业务，应酬多，作为同样搞商务的我表示理解。老婆没人照顾，出来多活动活动，找个感情的寄托也没什么说的。又如工作，同行近来挖角，积极应对；本职工作，却也拓展有序。工作本身：对于不同的产品线有的盛夏如火，有的无情挞伐，对于供应商、客户、公司政治虽然做不到滴水不漏，但也是圆滑翻转，丝丝入扣。
以至于现在看到，经历很多事情心里都会说一句：“可以理解”当然不至于到漠然的程度。一向以为自己是一个做起立行，判断果决的人（荣哥，这应该是最俗的吧），不想丧失心中这把尺子。
至于“敢爱敢恨的女孩”一匹布那么长，有可能或者再次遇到的话开几篇博。有几点提一下。敢爱敢恨本来就是大智慧，没有几次感情的成熟是做不到的（偶要的可不是水结晶，千万别误会）;每个女孩心中都有白马王子，我想要这样的女孩没什么不可以的。
小叶子,
恭喜恭喜!You're reaching a higher level.
[最近见到不少东西都会有模棱两可的看法，心里烦躁自己从哪个方向看都是对的，而丧失评判事物起码的标准...
以至于现在看到，经历很多事情心里都会说一句：“可以理解”当然不至于到漠然的程度。一向以为自己是一个做起立行，判断果决的人（荣哥，这应该是最俗的吧），不想丧失心中这把尺子]
There's no right or wrong in most things. It all depends on perspectives. Being able to understand things and people instead of judging them by your own standards is a show of maturity. :-)
我同意小叶子对“敢爱敢恨的女孩”的看法。大家是在从不同角度看问题。所以说Oliver的一段如果是命题作文的话可以在北美得A，因为论证有条理有力度，但在中国恐怕只能得C，因为没真正理解出题人的意思。呵呵，我在这里胡诌了。:-)
[There's no right or wrong in most things. It all depends on perspectives. Being able to understand things and people instead of judging them by your own standards is a show of maturity. :-) ]
I agree with the 1st part "There's no right or wrong in most things. It all depends on perspectives."
But I don't agree the rest part.
First of all, even though we totally understand things and people, we still can't help ourselves to judge them by our own standards. It's just like we can't stop breathing for more then 5 mins. (well, some people can. but it's very rare.) That's why we will like or dislike some one even after we put our understanding on them.
Secondly, it's very hard to understand everything or everyone. Technically it could be implmented, but in fact, it's almost impossible.
And I don't think it is mature to stop judging things or people around you. You have absolute right to judge anything or anyone around as you want to. The only thing to concern is try not to let your judgement impact the others, and try to keep enough respect to the others. And this would be a show of maturity.
我的回帖不是什么命题作文，不知道大家怎么这么一厢情愿的想。：）其实这个东西也就像是意识流。大家聊天嘛，想到哪里说到哪里。又不是党组织开会，发言前还要想想对错后果。
我上次回帖主要是因为这句话：
[有敢爱敢恨大智慧的女孩]
这个关键呐，在于如何定义“大智慧”。
自古以来能称得上是大智慧的，无非是一些高僧大德，或者世外高人。这些人，无一不是（至少表现出来是）超脱于爱恨之外的。说好听点，便叫超脱，说难听点就叫做冷血。
小叶子言语之间好像颇为欣赏[有敢爱敢恨大智慧的女孩]，我也不过是暗自为兄弟着急而已，这“大智慧”者，岂是好相与的？我乃升斗小民，遇到“大智慧”者，都是要躲着走的。怎地俺这兄弟倒是要寻那“大智慧”mm乎？这不是飞蛾扑火嘛。
这里俺就要认错了。甭管understand与否，我就先在肚子里judge了一把。immature得很。
Hi Oliver,
I don't think we speak the same language, so to speak. :-) It's like we are looking at things from different angles. But when you disagree, I need to explain further which is quite unnecessary cuz I think you should know what I mean. Anyhow, let's get it over with. :-)
[even though we totally understand things and people, we still can't help ourselves to judge them by our own standards.]
I know what you're saying and agree, but what I was trying to say is that, to certain extent it's more mature to habitually try to understand instead of judge when looking at ppl and things.
[it's very hard to understand everything or everyone. ]
That's why we need to always make an effort and try our best. It's like selflessness, nobody's completely selfless, it's against the nature, but we should try our best to be as much as we can in a way.
[And I don't think it is mature to stop judging things or people around you. ]
As you said, we can't help judging ppl unconsciously, so trying to judge consciously as little as we can will be helpful. If you're full of compassion and understanding, it'll be much easier to show respect.
[You have absolute right to judge anything or anyone around as you want to. ]
I wasn't talking about right. We also have the right to be mean, ignorant, blah blah blah. People shouldn't do things just because they have the right to.
[我的回帖不是什么命题作文，不知道大家怎么这么一厢情愿的想。：）]
I know I know, that's why I said "if". I have a vivid imagination sometimes. :-)
[怎地俺这兄弟倒是要寻那“大智慧”mm乎？]
You still didn't get it? His “大智慧”is different from yours, it refers to 敢爱敢恨. :-)
[甭管understand与否，我就先在肚子里judge了一把。immature得很。]
Nonesense. You weren't being immature. :-)
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